Kissing 101

Over the years, I've had a fair amount of opportunities to gain kissing experience. I'm not sayin' I know everything, but I know some stuff. And because I'm so analytical and curious I've talked to several women about this and I think I have the basics down.

I can tell you some stories of some awful kisses. Um, wow. And some knee buckling, heart-melting kisses. Again... WOOOOOW! Because of these experiences and the way I synthesize, I've had a couple of requests to advise men in the art of kissing a woman. Now, the reason I'm branching out to a blog post is that I simply cannot help all those that need help one-on-one. That service is non-monetarily expensive and time consuming... because I'm a perfectionist and I demand the same from my advisees.

Typically, I choose to fly under the radar, because like Hitch... I could see how people might think I'm running a lab like a scientist. But like any field of study, practices and methods can tend to change over time or due to environmental causes, etc. And ya, that stuff fascinates me. But overall, I have some basic advice to share. Don't worry ladies... all you have to do is sit back and enjoy. Men, pull up a chair.

1. Emotional Build-up: It has always fascinated me that men so easily get in the mood for kissing. It takes women a bit more to get into a mindset that will turn the experience from good-ish to amazing. I can tell you that the most memorable moments I've had is when I've had time to think about and anticipate the moment. Now, men, don't misunderstand! This is not a green light for you to taunt women and walk away, leaving her unsatisfied and angry. (Wrath tends to ignite unwanted DTR's.) Rather, a suggestion to prompt anticipation. There is a difference between wrath and anticipation. For instance, if you plan on seeing her and potentially kissing her later that day... you can spark her imagination and thoughts of you (which is what you want) with a cute, sassy text, or thoughtful act (like cleaning the kitchen unexpectedly), etc...anything that gets her thinking about you. This is your license to be creative guys. When she is thinking about you, she will most likely think about kissing you, and that desire will reside with her usually until you see her the next time. Then when you kiss, with that kind of build-up... magic.
2. Timing: When you think about the all important first kiss, remember that timing is essential. Lots of men jump the gun, which can ruin things pretty quick. Also, if you wait too long, there is a huge chance she will write you off or put you into the friend category. You need to be reading her. There is a certain type of "look" that women generate when they want to be kissed. You know the kinda glossy, half smirk that sustains eye contact. Wait for it...
3. Pacing: The best kissers know all about kissing progression. I've kissed some men who literally dive right in... and it's like they are digging for gold in my mouth with a time constraint... unleashing a tidal wave of passion all at once. Most of the time this happens it is a huge turn-off, and you will find your name used in several circles of women as more of a joke than anything else. (Note: moderated exceptions do exist) So let's talk about the kissing progression. First, you want to use your senses to become familiar with each others touch. You aren't necessarily kissing in this instance, rather lightly touching faces, and soaking in the feel of each other. The next step is the most important... tenderness. Once you have become familiar with each others touch and have both got to a point of really wanting to kiss, if you tenderly kiss at first and very gradually build passion, it yields the best results. You will be taking the woman to the same place that you are emotionally. Remember for her it is a progression, for you it is a on/off switch.

Aaaaand that's where I stop. These are the three basics... the introduction course to kissing. Of course there are other things to learn, like types of kisses, environment, etc. But my mom reads the blog, so... ya. I just wanted to provide the basics... all other lessons, come with a price.