How to Write a "Nice" Note
A couple of years ago I was in a ward (church congregation) that started doing "nice notes." During or after each service you could write a quick note to people in the ward, drop the note in the box near the door, and they were delivered to the person later that afternoon. At first, the ward really took hold of it, and there were several nice notes you would get from others in the ward, that were genuinely nice. Cute dress, nice lesson, etc.
Ironically, at the same time... because we were a singles congregation, this nice note service was used as a way to flirt with the opposite sex. It inspired quite a revolution. It seemed that several men had their own theory, anticipating a unique reaction. Well, as I have gone through several of them lately, because I've been cleaning things out... I think that I can give some examples of the different, ingenious ways you can write a "flirty" nice note, along with the reactions they stimulate. I'm going to divide these notes into different groups based upon the reason and creation for the note.
Intrigue
There is nothing more fun that interpreting code. I don't know why... but Little Orphan Annie had it right. I remember buying secret decoder pens and using them to write my friends notes in school. But after you graduate, I seem to remember turning in my decoder pens as I received my diploma (something about an acceptance of "responsibility"- ha!) Ultimately, there is something mysterious and exciting about it. Perhaps it is the hope of finding a treasure, but it definitely gets a girls attention none the less. This nice note has it all... code coupled with a proposition. Genius!100 points... for ingenuity, creativity, intrigue, proposition, and actual niceness. While I was just friends with this guy, I was quite excited to watch the movie with him after this note.
Flattery
I selected to showcase this nice note because it gives a woman what she needs... flattery. Yes, I said "needs," you might all laugh at that, but flattery works friends. However, I must comment on the genius behind a note like this... because flattery with desperation is a turnoff! However, flattery coupled with wit and mystery is brilliant. It leaves a woman smiling, with a hint of flirtation in her eye. Inevitably, it will make her take notice of the man, which might have been the intent. (For clarification purposes the text below the Camille stick figure says: Yawn! You just want me cause I'm beautiful. I'm gonna go watch a chick flick where there is kissing.)
Now, this one... when I first read it I thought it was flattering, but I guess these men aren't necessarily after my roommates and I... so this is second tier flattery. However, this nice note was given to my roommates and I collectively... another brilliant move... because we began to question his motives, which will also cause a woman to take notice and watch for more signs to indicate his behavior.
Irony and Insult
You might all turn your noses up at this type of "nice" note, however I have to appreciate the intelligence behind this tactic as well. When this certain young man came into our ward he instituted a whole new approach to nice notes: irony and insult. His goal... disruption. His mission... interaction with women. Was he successful... well, how would you react to the following notes.
I had to include commentary in this note simply to remark on the feedback it evoked within as I read it. Also, like the nice note above, this note was directed to an entire apartment (causing intrigue), and while the reaction might have been a hostile one, the next time we saw him, we talked (or rather argued) about this note. Mission accomplished: ironically, yes.
Then there is the ever popular stick figure put down... my commentary will suffice to show you what I was thinking in the moment. Did I react the next time I saw him, yes. Mission accomplished: unfortunately, yes.
I almost placed this note in the flattery category, however, the "how good is Camille at the game?" ruined it. And let me preface this "nice" note by saying that I'm not sure what "game" he's talking about, cuz I'm no player. Hence the reason for clarifying when I saw him next. Mission accomplished: dang it, yes... why didn't I catch on sooner!?!?
This is my personal favorite... the mystery note... I still have no idea who sent this. But the brilliance behind this is that I was on the look out from then on. Sometimes all a woman needs in her life is a reason to think that a man likes her to engage her in social situations with a group of people. But from that point on... I was dealt-in socially. Invested, and trying to solve the mystery. Mission accomplished: mysteriously, yes.
To wrap up, for the record I'm still officially offended by all of the "nice" notes that weren't intended to be nice. But have to recognize the ingenuity behind each of the variations and the purpose for them. Now that I'm in a ward that no longer has nice notes... I think this blog will suffice as a sufficient reason to re-institute them.
Ironically, at the same time... because we were a singles congregation, this nice note service was used as a way to flirt with the opposite sex. It inspired quite a revolution. It seemed that several men had their own theory, anticipating a unique reaction. Well, as I have gone through several of them lately, because I've been cleaning things out... I think that I can give some examples of the different, ingenious ways you can write a "flirty" nice note, along with the reactions they stimulate. I'm going to divide these notes into different groups based upon the reason and creation for the note.
Intrigue
There is nothing more fun that interpreting code. I don't know why... but Little Orphan Annie had it right. I remember buying secret decoder pens and using them to write my friends notes in school. But after you graduate, I seem to remember turning in my decoder pens as I received my diploma (something about an acceptance of "responsibility"- ha!) Ultimately, there is something mysterious and exciting about it. Perhaps it is the hope of finding a treasure, but it definitely gets a girls attention none the less. This nice note has it all... code coupled with a proposition. Genius!100 points... for ingenuity, creativity, intrigue, proposition, and actual niceness. While I was just friends with this guy, I was quite excited to watch the movie with him after this note.
Flattery
I selected to showcase this nice note because it gives a woman what she needs... flattery. Yes, I said "needs," you might all laugh at that, but flattery works friends. However, I must comment on the genius behind a note like this... because flattery with desperation is a turnoff! However, flattery coupled with wit and mystery is brilliant. It leaves a woman smiling, with a hint of flirtation in her eye. Inevitably, it will make her take notice of the man, which might have been the intent. (For clarification purposes the text below the Camille stick figure says: Yawn! You just want me cause I'm beautiful. I'm gonna go watch a chick flick where there is kissing.)
Now, this one... when I first read it I thought it was flattering, but I guess these men aren't necessarily after my roommates and I... so this is second tier flattery. However, this nice note was given to my roommates and I collectively... another brilliant move... because we began to question his motives, which will also cause a woman to take notice and watch for more signs to indicate his behavior.
Irony and Insult
You might all turn your noses up at this type of "nice" note, however I have to appreciate the intelligence behind this tactic as well. When this certain young man came into our ward he instituted a whole new approach to nice notes: irony and insult. His goal... disruption. His mission... interaction with women. Was he successful... well, how would you react to the following notes.
I had to include commentary in this note simply to remark on the feedback it evoked within as I read it. Also, like the nice note above, this note was directed to an entire apartment (causing intrigue), and while the reaction might have been a hostile one, the next time we saw him, we talked (or rather argued) about this note. Mission accomplished: ironically, yes.
Then there is the ever popular stick figure put down... my commentary will suffice to show you what I was thinking in the moment. Did I react the next time I saw him, yes. Mission accomplished: unfortunately, yes.
I almost placed this note in the flattery category, however, the "how good is Camille at the game?" ruined it. And let me preface this "nice" note by saying that I'm not sure what "game" he's talking about, cuz I'm no player. Hence the reason for clarifying when I saw him next. Mission accomplished: dang it, yes... why didn't I catch on sooner!?!?
This is my personal favorite... the mystery note... I still have no idea who sent this. But the brilliance behind this is that I was on the look out from then on. Sometimes all a woman needs in her life is a reason to think that a man likes her to engage her in social situations with a group of people. But from that point on... I was dealt-in socially. Invested, and trying to solve the mystery. Mission accomplished: mysteriously, yes.
To wrap up, for the record I'm still officially offended by all of the "nice" notes that weren't intended to be nice. But have to recognize the ingenuity behind each of the variations and the purpose for them. Now that I'm in a ward that no longer has nice notes... I think this blog will suffice as a sufficient reason to re-institute them.
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